Writing, distraction and bad moods

 

 

Can you write when you’re in an extremely bad mood? When you’re distracted, when someone tries to annoy you purposely? I’m talking about turning music on he/she knows exactly you hate and that you can’t concentrate when this shit is screaming and yodeling out of the radio.

Can you concentrate on writing when this person is constantly interrupting your flow by blabbing out about something just MORE than uninteresting or blurting out insults to you in beautiful regularity? 

See? That’s why I have difficulties to get anything halfway useful onto my paper for nearly two weeks. 

I love to be in company; I’m a quite social person. And I don’t even mind writing in an overcrowded Starbucks with background noise. That, at least, can be tuned out! But if someone sits across the table and permanently interrupts me – and if I try to keep the flow, yells insults at me like I’m a 5-year-old for not replying, then I’m having problems. 

I can write and deeply sink into my story, but not when I’m permanently distracted in particular by someone who is not supportive and tells me clearly my writing is just a waste of time and that I better would use the time cleaning my place. 

Sadly moments like this aren’t very helpful to a writer newbie and are only strengthening self-doubts. 

How can I avoid being hurt and distracted like this? How can I guarantee that my writing is still as good as I hope it would be? How is it possible for writers to keep in the flow and in the mood to write something useful if there are people like this around?

Am I the only one facing problems like this?

And if not: How do other writers handle situations like that? 

Is there advice or any helpful hint or trick I can follow to keep my writing on track?  

I don’t want to give up. I have always dreamed of being a writer… and I finally am concentrating and working on my dream… and still it seems there are some artificially produced hindrances who want to destroy that dream – and destroy me. 

Is there a way anyone can help me with? Thank you so much for your support!

 

 

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23 thoughts on “Writing, distraction and bad moods

  1. Fill up a bunch of boxes with their stuff and put it outside the door. Remember to change the locks while you’re at it. (and no I’m not necessarily kidding)

    Surround yourself with support, not negativity. And if you think you can’t live without that person, think about what you’re life is going to be like keeping them in it.

    Remember you do have what it takes to be a great writer. I’ve seen it in you and so have others. Also remember you’ve got a supportive network here online. No writer does it all themselves. We advise, critique, ask questions and try to help each other make it in the end.

    You’re not alone. We’re here and don’t forget to turn to us.

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    • I wish I could have, Allan… Bu the time that happened, I was on vacation and this person was invited to stay there at the very same time… which was annoying to me – but did not give me the chance to throw them out. It wasn’t my house.
      I will try, however, to keep myself away from that kind of situation as often as possible. But unfortunately the past 2 1/2 weeks I was caught in a situation I didn’t pick. *sigh*

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  2. I remember when Randy was on the road, which allowed me the freedom to write, undisturbed, frequently. If I had something I needed to put to paper, I just had to whip open the computer and get to business. The tides changed and now that Randy is home full time, I did find myself having to deal with frustration, which created a bad mood and no writing time.

    I am still finding the flow is being blocked by external things, which can put me back into the bad mood realm. I cannot write effectively or draw either during this time as I am not focused. The storyline goes sideways and I have to reinvent what I was trying to write, if I can remember where I was heading.

    About a month ago, I found that leaving myself voice messages as a prompt was helping a bit. I have to work on that a little more, so I don’t forget what the message was trying to help me remember. Now, I have to deal with…is it age, excuses or just more excuses.

    I am still smiling!

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    • Thank you very much for the hints and tips and tricks to re-focus on what I was trying to write. When I had a moment of peace and silence I had a great flow. (As I said. For a moment…) I would have more than enjoyed the time there – if that particular person wouldn’t have been around… 😦

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  3. I tend to agree with the general consensus Aurora – If you can, remove them (or yourself) away from them and their negativity, and never, ever, look back or regret doing it…
    You might feel guilty at first and blame yourself for them being like that – DON’T – They made themselves that way, not you!
    I speak from experience!

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  4. Composition books, a pile of comfortable pens and a short walk sound like the best solution to me (or a tablet or laptop, depending on tech level and financial stability). If there’s things that can’t be carried with (research materials or the like), scribble the salient points (or have a second document on that tablet or laptop), or write first, worry about the detail later.

    Of course, that’s secondary to my first impulse, which is seeing how far into a human hand one can stick a fork… but I tend to be considered just a teensy bit overreactive, in particular when my ego or dreams are being impugned.

    Another, secondary, option, which is heavily dependent on your living and financial situation, is change your schedule. If it’s a viable option, figure out when Captain Negativity is awake and active and around, and be asleep then; hit the word processor when they’re asleep or otherwise occupied.

    Good luck.

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  5. As writers we plough a lonely path that is beyond the comprehension of lesser mortals, forgive them for they no not what crap they speak !

    On a more serious note their actions are part of natural animal instinct, for instance have you ever tried to ignore a cat that wants a cuddle or a dog that wants to go for a walk ?

    Of course none of this applies to me for I solved the problem years ago, There are two basic ways:

    Anyone who annoys me when I am writing ends up in my next book as a murder victim or worse, and I always use their real first name. Oh Yeah don’t forget to send them a personalised signed copy !

    The other way is to dedicate the book to them, that way you can really name them, with the notation “Grateful thanks for strengthening my resolve to finish this book, no matter what”.

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