My Valentine’s Post About Men, Women, Their Differences – And Giggles

It’s 2021 – another year has passed – and while I hoped things would be clear and happy around my birthday – here I am – a month and a week later and still no flowers. *sigh*

For some reason, I’m surprised sometimes that most men ‘forget’ to give or send me flowers because they tell me they thought I wasn’t the flower-kind-of-girl. WHY NOT? What exactly gives you the impression I wouldn’t like flowers? Flowers are important to me – my favorite flowers are white lilies. BUT: Make no mistake: flowers have a meaning, they are a symbol and they should be used correctly:

  • White lilies and roses – wonderful – for my birthday bunch!
  • Yellow roses – they mean ‘friendship’
  • pink roses – are boring in my opinion and symbolize gratitude and say ‘thank you’
  • white roses: purity, innocence, spirituality – good for bridal bouquets of an 18-year-old – or a funeral
  • red roses: passion, romance, beauty, love – perfect for my valentine’s day!!

But then… men usually only think about flowers when they’re at the gas station and see these plastic-wrapped ‘last-minute-rose’ by the door. I’d love to have Valentine’s Day just once in my lifetime… but since that’s not happening, I most likely just have to pretend I don’t like it so much…

See, men and women are so different in many ways. Let’s see:

Women often complain about how their men/husbands/partners are never on time. It seems we women don’t understand that our better halves are like children when they play with their friends. They meet in a bar, have a couple of beers, and forget the time. At home, they told us, “Darling, I’ll be home latest at midnight,”… and when are they coming home? Sometime in May.

Many women don’t understand that men can be far more sensitive than we think, more profound, elaborate, and far more plaintive! Oh, come on, Guys; you know it! If you don’t feel well, you insist on informing the world! And in particular, you don’t want that anyone trivializes the entire tragic magnitude of your suffering!

If my friend’s husband has a cold, he is hugely hurt if someone asks him: Do you have a cold? His face is red, his nose purple, his eyes at half-mast, and he snuffles: “Cold? Oooooohhhh… my nose is running a marathon… I closed it down with superglue now. They’re still working on a dissolver.” (cough-cough-sigh). “But somehow things have to go on…” (sob)

A woman would get up, take a couple of sinus Tylenol’s, blow her nose, and start her day. Men make a far bigger fuss around their booboos.

If men would get menstruation, you don’t believe they would be satisfied with a simple ‘Always Ultra’? No way! They would carry half a mattress in their pants for everyone to see! And of course, talk about it at work. “Yo, Buddy… got your period again?” – “Ooooohhhh…. Yeah, last night, I’m telling you! I thought I’m bleeding out. And my wife, next to me? Sleeps like nothing is happening. I shook her, yelling at her: Woman, get up! Drive me to the hospital! I need a blood transfusion!” – And you don’t think men would carry tampons discretely in their bag or pocket? No! They would have their own golf-bag for that! Oh well, being a softie isn’t a sin. Compared to other things, of course.

Why do you think it’s said, so many of us ladies don’t meet their husbands in the afterlife? I heard after men pass away, they go to Heaven. The man stands there, in front of Saint Peter, and then they work on the payroll. If they’re above zero, in the end, they remain in Heaven; if they’re below zero, they’ll go to Hell. Life is hard work. Every man gets a minimum salary of $13/hr. That will be quite an amount, let’s say, at the age of 80. And then, of course, there will be the sins to pay for:

  • A lie -$25
  • Cheating -$235
  • Swearing -$80
  • Physical injury -$20,000
  • Masturbation -$0.50 (Yeah, you’re laughing, but hey, these accumulate, ‘ya know)

And then, Saint Peter calculates, and at the end -the guy is 50 cents short…

On the other hand, many men complain they don’t understand us, women! Well, if God would have wanted you guys to understand us, we’d come with a user manual.

Life is serious, sometimes tragic, at times, it’s stressful, hard, and horrible. And in these times, we need something to laugh about, and what would be funnier than the differences between men and women? This was my way to make you giggle.

 

The Council Of Twelve Series – Picking Fashion For My Female Characters I

Today I decided to dress my ladies.

The Council of Twelve series has four books out now. And my female characters are three wonderful, beautiful, and completely different ladies. The ones of you who have read the books know what I’m talking about. Now, in all of my books, the characters’ wardrobe is playing only a minor role. None of my characters has an extended closet and mainly dresses for work or dresses up for a formal occasion.

Naturally, the characters have different tastes and styles to dress. Of course, we cannot forget Teddy, but if you would like to know who that is, please read the books, Teddy is hard to describe, and it certainly needs more than only one paragraph.

Let’s have a look at Katie. She’s a Guardian and therefore can relax a bit in the way she dresses. She tells herself she mainly likes to be comfortable, and those are two of her favorite outfits.

 

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For a formal occasion, Katie can dress up in an official robe and look stunning in this turquoise gown:

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Sundance is an essential leading character in ‘The Council of Twelve’ series. Even though as young as she is, she is an exceptional warrior and therefore dressed accordingly. (Most of the time).

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As a protege of the ‘Council’ members and, in particular, the Council leader, she already has official tasks and duties to fulfill, and a formal dress for her can look like this:

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The consort in book three, Demon Tracker, is Zepheira. Her unusual looks, her horns, her unique character and behavior, and her extraordinary abilities make her one of my many reader’s favorite characters in the books. She permits herself to dress in an extravagant style and can easily allow herself that freedom.

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But even to Zye, how she’s called by her friends and family, formal means formal, and her consort insist on the traditional way in such a case. That doesn’t mean Zepheira always follows all the rules. A tiny sexy detail would be just like her… Dressed for an official occasion for Zepheira could look like that:

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Authors: Do you dress your characters in your books? Is the outfit for you important, and do you spend pages describing it? Do you imagine how your characters look and are dressed? Let me hear it.

Readers: Do you want to read about the outfits your characters are wearing? Or is it sometimes too much for you?

I’d be happy to read your comments.

Inspiration – Fellow Writers, Where Do You Find Yours? – Written By Don Massenzio

On Don Massenzio’s blog, I found an extended and very interesting post about inspiration. I’m generally fascinated to hear where experienced writers like Don Massenzio, author of the Frank Rozzani-series, got their inspiration from. In this article, Don informs us about different ways inspiration came to him. Thank you very much, Don!


It is a great day to start something big – motivational handwriting on a napkin with a cup of coffee

 

2020 – The Year Without Writing Inspiration

2021 is a year full of possibilities. I keep telling myself this over and over.

The pandemic caused me to pause my creative writing for a number of months. The reasons for the lull in my literary creativity are many, but I’d like to believe that most of them are under control or behind me at this point.

As I look for inspiration to jumpstart my writing and to ignite the fire to finish my next book, I decided to go back to those things that inspired me in the past.

I thought I would share these inspirational elements with you to help you find inspiration and invite you to share those things that inspire you to write when you have a lull in your creativity.

Here are the things that have worked for me:

CONTINUE READING HERE

Paranormal Romance Guild 2020 Reviewers Choice Awards – PLEASE HELP VOTE FOR DEMON TRACKER & THE COUNCIL OF TWELVE SERIES

Today I got the wonderful news that both, Demon Tracker, AND ‘The Council of Twelve’ series are nominated for the Paranormal Romance Guild’s 2020 Reviewer’s Choice Awards. I’m so excited!!

You will find the nominees here

If you check out the Paranormal Romance Guild website, the link will take you right there. Scroll down to the Y/A & N/A (about the middle), and you will find ‘Demon Tracker’ and the Council of Twelve series, both being nominated. I’m so proud!

Voting starts today, February 6 through February 12, 2021

Please vote here

Please help vote for Demon Tracker and ‘The Council Of Twelve’ series!

Romance Writers – The Broken Heart Syndrome Does Exist!

Just in case you’re writing romance, this information might be of use for you.

Lately, I have been musing about a ‘Broken Heart’. Is this ‘illness’ mainly existing in highly romantic women’s brains, or is there, in fact, something real about it?

When we suffer from a broken heart, we at least think, we are feeling physical pain (at least some of us do, sometimes).

Curiosity sent me doing some research and that’s what I found.


The Mayo Clinic writes on its website:

Broken heart syndrome is a temporary heart condition that’s often brought on by stressful situations and extreme emotions. The condition can also be triggered by a serious physical illness or surgery. It may also be called stress cardiomyopathy, takotsubo cardiomyopathy or apical ballooning syndrome.

People with broken heart syndrome may have sudden chest pain or think they’re having a heart attack. Broken heart syndrome affects just part of the heart, temporarily disrupting your heart’s normal pumping function. The rest of the heart continues to function normally or may even have more forceful contractions.

The symptoms of broken heart syndrome are treatable, and the condition usually reverses itself in days or weeks.

The article is quite long, treatment is described and symptoms and prevention recommendations are delivered. The full article can be read HERE.

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The medical expression I highlighted above, takotsubo cardiomyopathy  is also mentioned on the website of the ‘Queensland Health Government’, Australia. There the paragraph says:

A medically broken heart

Ever wondered if emotional heartbreak can actually, physically break your heart?

Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy is the medical name for a syndrome that can be caused by heartbreak, or more accurately, the stress of a heartbreaking situation.

Acute emotional stress, positive or negative, can cause the left ventricle of the heart to be ‘stunned’ or paralysed, causing heart attack-like symptoms including strong chest, arm or shoulder pains, shortness of breath, dizziness, loss of consciousness, nausea and vomiting.

The good news: the condition doesn’t usually cause permanent damage like a heart attack does, and often resolves itself. The bad news: it can be stressful and painful, with people often thinking they’re having an actual heart attack.

Because it’s not possible to tell without tests what’s causing your symptoms, if you ever experience the symptoms of heart attack you should call Triple Zero (000) for an ambulance.

The entire information can be found HERE

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The ‘Broken Heart Syndrome’ can even be found on the ‘Heart.org’ website! To my surprise, I found a quite empathic and emotional entry paragraph about the subject. The website says:

When Your Heart Breaks … (Literally).

You can die of a broken heart — it’s scientific fact — and my heart has been breaking since that very first day we met. I can feel it now, aching deep behind my rib cage the way it does every time we’re together, beating a desperate rhythm: Love me. Love me. Love me.”  Abby McDonald, Getting Over Garrett Delaney

When you think of a broken heart, you may picture a cartoon drawing with a jagged line through it. But a real-life broken heart can actually lead to cardiac consequences. There are established ties between depression, mental health and heart disease. Read on for more information about how an extremely stressful event can have an impact on your heart.

It then continues in a more clinical way:

Breakdown of a Broken Heart

Broken heart syndrome, also called stress-induced cardiomyopathy or takotsubo cardiomyopathy, can strike even if you’re healthy. (Tako tsubo, by the way, are octopus traps that resemble the pot-like shape of the stricken heart.)

Women are more likely than men to experience the sudden, intense chest pain — the reaction to a surge of stress hormones — that can be caused by an emotionally stressful event. It could be the death of a loved one or even a divorce, breakup or physical separation, betrayal or romantic rejection. It could even happen after a good shock (like winning the lottery.)

Broken heart syndrome may be misdiagnosed as a heart attack because the symptoms and test results are similar. In fact, tests show dramatic changes in rhythm and blood substances that are typical of a heart attack. But unlike a heart attack, there’s no evidence of blocked heart arteries in broken heart syndrome.

In broken heart syndrome, a part of your heart temporarily enlarges and doesn’t pump well, while the rest of your heart functions normally or with even more forceful contractions. Researchers are just starting to learn the causes, and how to diagnose and treat it.

The bad news: Broken heart syndrome can lead to severe, short-term heart muscle failure.

The good news: Broken heart syndrome is usually treatable. Most people who experience it make a full recovery within weeks, and they’re at low risk for it happening again (although in rare cases it can be fatal).

The page also shows symptoms and treatment and can be found HERE.


 

We learned that a broken heart not necessarily always is crying in your pillow, eating lots of ice cream (or drinking a bottle of alcohol after the next), sleeping bad and drowning in longing for months… it can also affect our heart in a medical way. Of course, this isn’t the case with every single broken heart. Some of us have gone through many of those… and survived. Yes, we feel bad, yes, it hurts (physically – and mentally)… but with support and help from friends and family, we will get over it. Eventually.

Of course, we can also decide to completely remove any connection, bond, love, or relationship from our heart, out of fear we could get hurt again. What a life that would be… disappointment and pain go hand in hand with love. How calm would a life without love be, how peaceful – and how boring…

The New Bounty Hunter Trailer Is Here!

This afternoon the new Bounty Hunter trailer got published on the ‘Literary Titan’ YouTube Channel!

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Coming March 13, 2021

The fourth book of “The Council Of Twelve” series

BOUNTY HUNTER


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