Pain…

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How do we describe pain? Pain can have many different ‘forms’ of manifestation: I found the following words:

  • ache
  • pang
  • prick
  • shoot
  • smart
  • sting
  • stitch
  • throw
  • tingle
  • twinge
  • Burning
  • Sharp
  • Aching
  • Dull
  • Stabbing
  • Radiating
  • Throbbing
  • Cramping
  • Shooting

There are probably many more words to describe pain… in most cases, we describe what aches us when we are experiencing a headache, a tummy ache, when we fell and got injured, when our head, our knee, or our hand hurts when we cut or pricked ourselves…

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But… where is the table to describe the pain of heartbreak? Nagging, crushing, piercing…? We heard it all. But nobody can really invent, or find new words to really express what a human being with a broken heart feels. It’s too much to describe, or there are no words? That probably is most accurate, or, as I said once: “The pain of a broken heart is despair.”

Now, a broken heart is caused by loss… generally the loss of a beloved human being, maybe even a pet… The loss of a human being can be caused by separation by decision, or by death.

In medical terms, it’s called ‘Broken Heart Syndrome’, BHS. I have published a blog post about it, you can find it here.

How to describe what you feel? How to tell your doctor, your psychiatrist, or your best friend, what your tears mean? Tears can’t mend your heart, they are just a manifestation of the words you can’t speak aloud.

How to describe, when nothing you feel makes sense? How to describe the patience you needed to be with someone, how to describe the joy you felt when even talking to the person? How to describe the loss you felt, after saying good night over the phone, and how to describe the endless hours of missing someone’s voice, even if it doesn’t really make sense?

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Do you have experience describing broken heart pain? Help us out, we would like to know. It’s horrible, not to know what we feel, or how to express it.