My Valentine’s Post About Men, Women, Their Differences – And Giggles

It’s 2021 – another year has passed – and while I hoped things would be clear and happy around my birthday – here I am – a month and a week later and still no flowers. *sigh*

For some reason, I’m surprised sometimes that most men ‘forget’ to give or send me flowers because they tell me they thought I wasn’t the flower-kind-of-girl. WHY NOT? What exactly gives you the impression I wouldn’t like flowers? Flowers are important to me – my favorite flowers are white lilies. BUT: Make no mistake: flowers have a meaning, they are a symbol and they should be used correctly:

  • White lilies and roses – wonderful – for my birthday bunch!
  • Yellow roses – they mean ‘friendship’
  • pink roses – are boring in my opinion and symbolize gratitude and say ‘thank you’
  • white roses: purity, innocence, spirituality – good for bridal bouquets of an 18-year-old – or a funeral
  • red roses: passion, romance, beauty, love – perfect for my valentine’s day!!

But then… men usually only think about flowers when they’re at the gas station and see these plastic-wrapped ‘last-minute-rose’ by the door. I’d love to have Valentine’s Day just once in my lifetime… but since that’s not happening, I most likely just have to pretend I don’t like it so much…

See, men and women are so different in many ways. Let’s see:

Women often complain about how their men/husbands/partners are never on time. It seems we women don’t understand that our better halves are like children when they play with their friends. They meet in a bar, have a couple of beers, and forget the time. At home, they told us, “Darling, I’ll be home latest at midnight,”… and when are they coming home? Sometime in May.

Many women don’t understand that men can be far more sensitive than we think, more profound, elaborate, and far more plaintive! Oh, come on, Guys; you know it! If you don’t feel well, you insist on informing the world! And in particular, you don’t want that anyone trivializes the entire tragic magnitude of your suffering!

If my friend’s husband has a cold, he is hugely hurt if someone asks him: Do you have a cold? His face is red, his nose purple, his eyes at half-mast, and he snuffles: “Cold? Oooooohhhh… my nose is running a marathon… I closed it down with superglue now. They’re still working on a dissolver.” (cough-cough-sigh). “But somehow things have to go on…” (sob)

A woman would get up, take a couple of sinus Tylenol’s, blow her nose, and start her day. Men make a far bigger fuss around their booboos.

If men would get menstruation, you don’t believe they would be satisfied with a simple ‘Always Ultra’? No way! They would carry half a mattress in their pants for everyone to see! And of course, talk about it at work. “Yo, Buddy… got your period again?” – “Ooooohhhh…. Yeah, last night, I’m telling you! I thought I’m bleeding out. And my wife, next to me? Sleeps like nothing is happening. I shook her, yelling at her: Woman, get up! Drive me to the hospital! I need a blood transfusion!” – And you don’t think men would carry tampons discretely in their bag or pocket? No! They would have their own golf-bag for that! Oh well, being a softie isn’t a sin. Compared to other things, of course.

Why do you think it’s said, so many of us ladies don’t meet their husbands in the afterlife? I heard after men pass away, they go to Heaven. The man stands there, in front of Saint Peter, and then they work on the payroll. If they’re above zero, in the end, they remain in Heaven; if they’re below zero, they’ll go to Hell. Life is hard work. Every man gets a minimum salary of $13/hr. That will be quite an amount, let’s say, at the age of 80. And then, of course, there will be the sins to pay for:

  • A lie -$25
  • Cheating -$235
  • Swearing -$80
  • Physical injury -$20,000
  • Masturbation -$0.50 (Yeah, you’re laughing, but hey, these accumulate, ‘ya know)

And then, Saint Peter calculates, and at the end -the guy is 50 cents short…

On the other hand, many men complain they don’t understand us, women! Well, if God would have wanted you guys to understand us, we’d come with a user manual.

Life is serious, sometimes tragic, at times, it’s stressful, hard, and horrible. And in these times, we need something to laugh about, and what would be funnier than the differences between men and women? This was my way to make you giggle.

 

Paranormal Romance Guild 2020 Reviewers Choice Awards – PLEASE HELP VOTE FOR DEMON TRACKER & THE COUNCIL OF TWELVE SERIES

Today I got the wonderful news that both, Demon Tracker, AND ‘The Council of Twelve’ series are nominated for the Paranormal Romance Guild’s 2020 Reviewer’s Choice Awards. I’m so excited!!

You will find the nominees here

If you check out the Paranormal Romance Guild website, the link will take you right there. Scroll down to the Y/A & N/A (about the middle), and you will find ‘Demon Tracker’ and the Council of Twelve series, both being nominated. I’m so proud!

Voting starts today, February 6 through February 12, 2021

Please vote here

Please help vote for Demon Tracker and ‘The Council Of Twelve’ series!

Romance Writers – The Broken Heart Syndrome Does Exist!

Just in case you’re writing romance, this information might be of use for you.

Lately, I have been musing about a ‘Broken Heart’. Is this ‘illness’ mainly existing in highly romantic women’s brains, or is there, in fact, something real about it?

When we suffer from a broken heart, we at least think, we are feeling physical pain (at least some of us do, sometimes).

Curiosity sent me doing some research and that’s what I found.


The Mayo Clinic writes on its website:

Broken heart syndrome is a temporary heart condition that’s often brought on by stressful situations and extreme emotions. The condition can also be triggered by a serious physical illness or surgery. It may also be called stress cardiomyopathy, takotsubo cardiomyopathy or apical ballooning syndrome.

People with broken heart syndrome may have sudden chest pain or think they’re having a heart attack. Broken heart syndrome affects just part of the heart, temporarily disrupting your heart’s normal pumping function. The rest of the heart continues to function normally or may even have more forceful contractions.

The symptoms of broken heart syndrome are treatable, and the condition usually reverses itself in days or weeks.

The article is quite long, treatment is described and symptoms and prevention recommendations are delivered. The full article can be read HERE.

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The medical expression I highlighted above, takotsubo cardiomyopathy  is also mentioned on the website of the ‘Queensland Health Government’, Australia. There the paragraph says:

A medically broken heart

Ever wondered if emotional heartbreak can actually, physically break your heart?

Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy is the medical name for a syndrome that can be caused by heartbreak, or more accurately, the stress of a heartbreaking situation.

Acute emotional stress, positive or negative, can cause the left ventricle of the heart to be ‘stunned’ or paralysed, causing heart attack-like symptoms including strong chest, arm or shoulder pains, shortness of breath, dizziness, loss of consciousness, nausea and vomiting.

The good news: the condition doesn’t usually cause permanent damage like a heart attack does, and often resolves itself. The bad news: it can be stressful and painful, with people often thinking they’re having an actual heart attack.

Because it’s not possible to tell without tests what’s causing your symptoms, if you ever experience the symptoms of heart attack you should call Triple Zero (000) for an ambulance.

The entire information can be found HERE

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The ‘Broken Heart Syndrome’ can even be found on the ‘Heart.org’ website! To my surprise, I found a quite empathic and emotional entry paragraph about the subject. The website says:

When Your Heart Breaks … (Literally).

You can die of a broken heart — it’s scientific fact — and my heart has been breaking since that very first day we met. I can feel it now, aching deep behind my rib cage the way it does every time we’re together, beating a desperate rhythm: Love me. Love me. Love me.”  Abby McDonald, Getting Over Garrett Delaney

When you think of a broken heart, you may picture a cartoon drawing with a jagged line through it. But a real-life broken heart can actually lead to cardiac consequences. There are established ties between depression, mental health and heart disease. Read on for more information about how an extremely stressful event can have an impact on your heart.

It then continues in a more clinical way:

Breakdown of a Broken Heart

Broken heart syndrome, also called stress-induced cardiomyopathy or takotsubo cardiomyopathy, can strike even if you’re healthy. (Tako tsubo, by the way, are octopus traps that resemble the pot-like shape of the stricken heart.)

Women are more likely than men to experience the sudden, intense chest pain — the reaction to a surge of stress hormones — that can be caused by an emotionally stressful event. It could be the death of a loved one or even a divorce, breakup or physical separation, betrayal or romantic rejection. It could even happen after a good shock (like winning the lottery.)

Broken heart syndrome may be misdiagnosed as a heart attack because the symptoms and test results are similar. In fact, tests show dramatic changes in rhythm and blood substances that are typical of a heart attack. But unlike a heart attack, there’s no evidence of blocked heart arteries in broken heart syndrome.

In broken heart syndrome, a part of your heart temporarily enlarges and doesn’t pump well, while the rest of your heart functions normally or with even more forceful contractions. Researchers are just starting to learn the causes, and how to diagnose and treat it.

The bad news: Broken heart syndrome can lead to severe, short-term heart muscle failure.

The good news: Broken heart syndrome is usually treatable. Most people who experience it make a full recovery within weeks, and they’re at low risk for it happening again (although in rare cases it can be fatal).

The page also shows symptoms and treatment and can be found HERE.


 

We learned that a broken heart not necessarily always is crying in your pillow, eating lots of ice cream (or drinking a bottle of alcohol after the next), sleeping bad and drowning in longing for months… it can also affect our heart in a medical way. Of course, this isn’t the case with every single broken heart. Some of us have gone through many of those… and survived. Yes, we feel bad, yes, it hurts (physically – and mentally)… but with support and help from friends and family, we will get over it. Eventually.

Of course, we can also decide to completely remove any connection, bond, love, or relationship from our heart, out of fear we could get hurt again. What a life that would be… disappointment and pain go hand in hand with love. How calm would a life without love be, how peaceful – and how boring…

The New Bounty Hunter Trailer Is Here!

This afternoon the new Bounty Hunter trailer got published on the ‘Literary Titan’ YouTube Channel!

Check it out here:


Coming March 13, 2021

The fourth book of “The Council Of Twelve” series

BOUNTY HUNTER


For updates click the pre-order button or HERE


 

 

GRAB YOUR ‘BOUNTY HUNTER’ EBOOK TODAY FOR $2.49 AT THE PRE-ORDER SPECIAL PRICING!

Amazon

Bounty Hunter – Kindle edition by Alexander, A. J., Magical Design, K. J., Publications, DSM. Children Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

 

Smashwords:

Smashwords – Bounty Hunter – a book by A. J. Alexander

 

Paranormal Romance Guild 2020 Reviewers Choice Awards – Demon Tracker And The Council Of Twelve Series Are Nominated

 

 

 

 

Today I got the wonderful news that both, Demon Tracker, AND ‘The Council of Twelve’ series are nominated for the Paranormal Romance Guild’s 2020 Reviewer’s Choice Awards. I’m so excited!!

You will find the nominees here

If you check out the Paranormal Romance Guild website, the link will take you right there. Scroll down to the Y/A & N/A (about the middle), and you will find ‘Demon Tracker’ and the Council of Twelve series, both being nominated. I’m so proud!

Voting will start February 6 through February 12, 2021

Please help vote for Demon Tracker and ‘The Council Of Twelve’ series!

 

 

Bounty Hunter Is Ready For Pre-Order

Coming March 13, 2021

The fourth book of “The Council Of Twelve” series

BOUNTY HUNTER


For updates click the pre-order button or HERE

When Centriel roams the Earth in a dark mood and atypical despair, in a mountain clearing, far from humankind, he unexpectedly discovers a runner, followed by a petite hunter. The way the woman treats the giant fugitive amuses the Archangel, but he quickly learns that neither of them are what they seem to be.

Simin Arnatt is an extraordinary woman. Her occupation as a Bounty Hunter takes her all over the world, as she follows her prey to the most unusual places. She would have never expected to meet the famous Centriel while on a hunt. When he offers to help her, she feels the enormous attraction, but she knows, with the secret she holds, she could never dare to hope for love.

Neither of them could guess that with her next assignment, Hell is breaking loose…


 


GRAB YOUR ‘BOUNTY HUNTER’ EBOOK TODAY FOR $2.49 AT THE PRE-ORDER SPECIAL PRICING!

Amazon

Bounty Hunter – Kindle edition by Alexander, A. J., Magical Design, K. J., Publications, DSM. Children Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

 

Smashwords:

Smashwords – Bounty Hunter – a book by A. J. Alexander

 

Cover Reveal Bounty Hunter – 4th Book Of The Council Of Twelve Series

For the fourth time now, I’m thrilled. Singing and dancing through the day, I invite you to celebrate with me. I want to share with you the cover of my new book

BOUNTY HUNTER

releasing March 13, 2021, on Amazon and Smashwords.

This new book introduces us to Simin Arnatt, a famous Bounty Hunter, mainly for supernatural creatures. Simin would have preferred to be less famous, but the quality of her work speaks for itself. Unexpectedly while being on the job, she meets Archangel Centriel in a forest clearing in the mountains. She doesn’t know how this encounter will change her life and future within the shortest time.

Holding a secret for her entire life, she wishes she could share it with someone. But had she been a hunter before, now she becomes a target.

 

I’m grateful that once again, my cover was designed by the wonderful Kathryn Jenkins of KJ Magical Designs :

The cover shows Simin Arnatt in a highly alert pose, holding her crossbow, her trademark in her right hand. Her looks are unusual. Her almost white hair, darker skin, and yellow eyes hint at the secret she has locked deeply into her heart. She wears her hunter outfit and is clearly on her job in the mountain forest, which the background shows.

Half visible, well covered by nature, we can see Centriel, the Archangel with the signature light blue wings, he holds spread, as if he was prepared to protect her.

The cover seems a bit ‘darker’ than the ones before. But it mirrors exactly the story and the two protagonists.

Once more, I’m enthusiastic about the cover.

Are you ready to see it?

Then scroll…


About the book:

When Centriel roams the Earth in a dark mood and atypical despair, in a mountain clearing, far from humankind, he unexpectedly discovers a runner, followed by a petite hunter. The way the woman treats the giant fugitive amuses the Archangel, but he quickly learns that neither of them are what they seem to be.

Simin Arnatt is an extraordinary woman. Her occupation as a Bounty Hunter takes her all over the world, as she follows her prey to the most unusual places. She would have never expected to meet the famous Centriel while on a hunt. When he offers to help her, she feels the enormous attraction, but she knows, with the secret she holds, she could never dare to hope for love.

Neither of them could guess that with her next assignment, Hell is breaking loose…


About the author:

A. J. Alexander is a talented classical musician who has won several music contests in her youth. She is an accomplished skier and loves to swim, amongst other sports.

She works a full-time job and travels a lot, as well nationally as also internationally.

A.J. Alexander just recently moved to a new home, together with her three beautiful active, and demanding cats. In her rare free time, she loves to meet friends or go for long nature walks.

To fulfill her dream of seeing many amazing places globally, Aurora Jean started traveling in her early twenties and spent some time in Europe where she visited Paris, Rome, Madrid, Vienna, Prague, London, Berne, Berlin, Athens, and Santorini. Also, she took an extended break a few years later and drove across the U.S. from Chicago to Santa Monica and across the South to Florida.

A.J. Alexander descends from an internationally extended, politically and entrepreneurially active family and was privileged to enjoy an excellent international education. In her spare time, she volunteers for charity events, fights for animal rights, and, when needed, serves as an interpreter to help great causes.

Please watch out for the pre-order. The date will be announced shortly!

If I Had A Birthday Wish

It’s an extraordinary day for me today. I’m facing the fact that I just got one year older. This means my anniversary to turn 29 recurs; I forgot the number of times this year.

Well, I figure, age is just a number and considering my age and everything I went through, I’m blessed I’m still as functional as I am now. I’m not going to complain today… after all, it’s my birthday, and I don’t want to come online whining like a baby.

Don’t get me wrong, my Birthday will be the most wonderful day of the year. Due to the pandemic, the lockdown, and social distancing, I’m going to spend it all by myself, locked into my apartment, just with the cats. And knowing my luck, as usual, people are going to forget about it – and even if not, I’m getting short messages, texts, messenger-‘HBD’s and the one or other voice message… but nowadays nobody seems to have time to talk anymore – on the phone and sacrifice a few minutes to make things personal and show the other one that a few minutes isn’t too much to ask.

However, I have thought about what I would wish for if I had a few free wishes (Like twenty or so – on a list), But then I decided to do it differently.

 

 

 

 

 

 

And what do I pray for at this time?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Of course, if you know me, you’re well aware that the last point on that list was written with a smirk and a wink…

Yes, I do wish all that… but then, after all, it’s MY birthday – MY special day, where I’m going out and will buy a piece of cake, just for me… and then return to my writing…

What do I wish for myself? I mean, besides a few things that I don’t want to spread out here… that are deep in my heart… I won’t tell you.

I wish more people would watch the wonderful book trailers for ‘The Council Of Twelve’ series and take the time to read the books. Many say they’re wonderful, and I’d love to hear more people diving into the series. Then, don’t forget: This isn’t a trilogy – it’s a series. Book 4 is getting ready…

 

Soul Taker Book 1

 

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Sundance Book 2

 

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Demon Tracker Book 3


That’s one of my wishes… to bring my books to the reader’s heart.

I would love to hear from you how you like the stories around ‘The Council Of Twelve.’

Thank you for making this day special for me.

 

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Merry Christmas – 2020

2020 was an eventful and extremely challenging year for me. However, I decided to use December, the last month of the year, to calm my soul, concentrate on what’s important, on what’s in my heart, and on one emotion in particular:

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Writer’s Treasure Chest grew again and I have to thank you all, my Followers, Friends, and Readers!

Thank you so much for making my writing adventure a pleasant one!

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I wish you and your loved ones