Why Does A Romantic Book End At The ‘Happily Ever After?’

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I suspect we all know the touching moment we waited for after we were going through the adventures of the romantic couple. We smiled with them when they found each other. We were happy with them when they fell in love. We cried with them when they lost each other because of some horrible misunderstanding. And, of course, we celebrated when they found each other again, kissed and ‘lived happily ever after.’

And now?

Don’t we ask ourselves how their wedding looked like? How are their families, how their friends? Don’t we wish sometimes we could play a ‘fly on the wall’ seeing how their relationship develops when challenged by marriage?

And that’s when my imagination runs wild.

Of course, it would be amazing and heartwarming to see their wedding. Because weddings are always touching and celebrating and viewing the ‘good’ in everything and everybody.

And then our couple moves in with each other. Both go to work… every morning she makes her favorite coffee, every morning he tells her that this particular brand gives him bad reflux. Then they climb in their own cars and drive off, only to see each other late at night, due to overtime and traffic jams.

She cooks, but he’s not home. Disappointed, she covers his meal and puts it away in the refrigerator, leaving him a note before she goes to bed. He comes home late, makes himself a sandwich because he can’t stand that particular dish, and never dared to tell her.

The weekends they often spend with their in-laws’ camping or in the one or other backyard with a barbecue. They can’t go on vacation… because they can’t get off the same time – and of course, they cannot stay away from work longer than a weekend.

Even though everyone waits for them to announce that they are expecting, that never happens because both are too busy to make money and soon buy their own house… Unfortunately, they don’t realize they are waiting too long until she’s in her forties and finally decides it might be too risky to have a child now.

Occasionally they’re going out for dinner, but mostly they don’t have to say much to each other unless they discuss the job… and then it’s Monday, and the routine starts from scratch.

They might buy the house everybody expects them to buy. It’s a breathtaking museum, but they’re too busy with their job to enjoy it… it’s not a home, it’s just a status symbol. And they both continue working.

And at one point they realize… they don’t have that much to say to each other. They don’t know, do we actually know each other? Or did we just rush into our marriage because everybody expected us to; our families, the readers…

Basically, their marriage is the wrong coffee, and a woman who cannot cook… it’s everything everyone expects, but to them, it’s just routine and boredom.

And that’s why a romantic book usually ends with the kiss and the ‘happily ever after.’

Starting Over And Leaving Your Comfort Zone – Written By Derek Haines

Derek Haines writes about starting over and leaving our comfort zone. Thanks a lot for that blog post, Derek. It was very important to me right now.


Change is the only constant in life

Everyone loves to talk about change, but when change happens unexpectedly, it usually means starting over and leaving one of our comfort zones behind us.

It doesn’t matter what the cause is; a relationship, a job or where you live.

When your stability and routine is upset, it can be difficult to know how to start over and find a fresh start.

But when we look back on the changes that have happened in our lives, such as an old job, a previous relationship or where we lived ten years ago, today is better.

It can take time to adapt, but in the end, we generally feel good about the choices and decisions we made.

Change in life is not always easy.

But when it comes to publishing today, making changes is the only way to move ahead.

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How To Spend Your Vacation Writing

I generally do whatever I can to use my free time to write. The very best time is my vacation. Tons of free time and “nothing” else to do. Yes, of course, there’s the usually shopping trip. Meeting friends, book fairs, a few meetings, a little bit of sightseeing, if necessary, but normally I spend my vacation time with my Californian Mom, my sister… you get the point. Places where I can relax and concentrate on my books and stories.

Once again I was lucky enough to have had a home for three weeks, where I had nearly nothing to do than to shop, type, and write.

I could concentrate on the current book – number seven in the series, where I got stuck while being at home. No matter what I tried, I just couldn’t get forward with the story. I had an idea and it didn’t work. I wanted to write about a conversation between two characters and it didn’t make sense, not even to me.

As soon as I was gone, decently relaxed and had peace and silence around me (two dogs, four cats, a handful of birds and a guinea pig, my pen touched the paper and wrote.

I mentioned this before, and it once again proved right with me: I cannot write a good story (or part of it) when I’m stressed out or unhappy. Hemingway wrote his best books when he was weeping over his life and/or drunk. Not working with me.

I’m very happy my work made this good progress during this vacation, even more since the first book of the series got its copyright and is currently prepared to be published.

I’m so very excited!

Thank you all who have worked on this with me.

This vacation was successful for me, even though I was “just hanging out”! It’s been calm, quiet, helpful, reducing stress and homey too!

Thanks to my sister and my brother-in-law who hosted me during all this time!! You rock!!

 

When Nature Awakes

The newest year is still a child

when frost clear air is turning mild.

Snow, it melts and leaves below

last year’s dirt and rests  to show.

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The sun gets warmer, gains in might,

sends its heat, its warmth and light.

soft blue sky and cotton clouds

make people smile; elicit the crowds.

**

Leaves on trees peak out and show

some new and happy greens to grow.

Nature turns colorful, yellow, red, blue

it’s a miracle of renewal but that we knew.

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Birds twitter while feeding their brood

more and more people we find in good mood.

Young mammals are born, they make us all smile

It’s easy to stay and marvel for just a little while.

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Nature is great, frozen, when asleep

it can wake, it can die, it can smile and weep.

But most of all while through seasons we roam

Nature is cleaning our Earth and Home.

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(Copyright Aurora Jean Alexander, March 2017)

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My Writing Progress – 3

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I’m almost a little shocked I’ve got news in my writing progress – again. Right after Christmas, I published a blog post about sending the first book in the series to my editor.

Since then I have been working intensely on the second book in the series – and finished the first draft of the book.

Of course, there is a lot to do now until that one is ready to be sent off into the knowing hands of my wonderful editor. But the first step is done. I only decided to interrupt my current work on the book to write and schedule this blog post.

It’s time now to find out if the second book is a novella as well or if the draft will turn out into a novel. I’m very curious, I admit.

It seems with this second book, that had been resting for such a long time, I suddenly picked up where I left off and galloped towards the finalization.

I currently work alternately on book four and five of the series… I guess it’s time to think about the sixth one.

What I can see more and more into the series is, that I enjoy creating the people, building the stories, finding their path through the adventures. I feel home with a pen and paper in my hand like I belong. This is, how it feels – to be an author!

 

 

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September 11 – It’s 2016! Time to Remember!

July 28, on FB, Steve Woodall, posted a picture of 9/11.

That’s what he wrote:

Does anybody remember the day when Color, Race, Religion and Political Affiliation didn’t matter? The day when Police and Firefighters were the Biggest Heroes on the planet.. The day when we were all just Americans?? Don’t let it take this … To bring us back together.. Please feel free to share.

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Please, remember!! REMEMBER!!

And become ONE NATION AGAIN!!

GBA
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How to Get Paid for Writing Greeting Cards

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Once in a while when I’m looking for a very special greeting card for one of my loved ones, I read through many cards and keep thinking to myself: “I bet I could do something like this as well.”

Now I read an article on “Real Ways to Earn” about how to get paid for writing greeting cards. It clearly states that writing greeting cards isn’t as easy as it looks like. The page clearly states: “Most greeting card companies are very picky about what they will accept and even though what you write doesn’t have to be long, it has to be catchy and engaging.”

The blog post as well offers the link to the submission pages of 7 quite well known greeting card companies as also an interview with greeting card writer Nadia Ali, which I think is very interesting and gives excellent insight into the biz.

For more help and tips the article provides the links to two published and quite successful e-books, about what to avoid when submitting a verse to publishers and “How to Write Humorous Greeting Cards, written by someone who has had success writing humorous greeting cards.

I think to writers who consider a peek into the greeting card business this is a very helpful and supportive blog post and worth being read.

 

http://realwaystoearnmoneyonline.com/2011/11/get-paid-for-writing-greeting-cards.html

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