7 physical and psychological changes that happen when you fall in love – Written By Nicol Natale

Nicol Natale on the Business Insider wrote an article about the physical and psychological changes in our body when we’re in love. I found this very interesting and decided to share the article with you, of course, linking it back to the original page. Maybe you find the one or other information as fascinating as I did.


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  • Love leads to biological changes that have been observed in scientific research.
  • Being in love can reduce stress, relieve pain, and make you happier.
  • Here are seven ways your body and brain change when you fall in love.

 

Have you ever looked at your partner lovingly and felt your heart flutter, palms sweat, or mood instantly get better?

Cuddling, hugging, and kissing the one you love can instantly reduce stress and increase feelings of calm, trust, and security thanks to oxytocin, while your mood improves as a result of your reward center flooding with dopamine.

Here are seven ways your body and brain change when you fall in love.

Elevated blood pressure, or hypertension, is a dangerous condition that puts your body at increased risk for heart attack, stroke, and kidney failure. Medication and lifestyle changes like getting exercise and eating healthier can control or reduce hypertension, but research has also suggested that being in love can serve as a a natural way to reduce blood-pressure levels.

A 2007 study published by the US Department of Health Services looked at the relationship between marriage, physical health, and longevity, and found that married couples have lower blood pressure and a reduced risk for cardiovascular disease.

In an analysis of cardiovascular disease risk, the American College of Cardiology looked at 3.5 million participants who were single, divorced, or widowed. They found that married couples under 50 years old tended to have a 12% lower risk of vascular disease. Married people between the ages of 51 and 60 had a 7% lower risk for disease than their unmarried counterparts.

Falling for someone may be stressful in the beginning — there’s uncertainty about whether they feel the same way, the possibility of rejection, and anxiety about when to say those three big words.

The initial stages of falling in love increase levels of cortisol, a hormone associated with stress, in new couples, according to a small study published in 2004. However, when the participants were tested 12 to 24 months later, their cortisol levels had returned to normal.

Though love can be stressful for some — especially in the early stages — it can potentially lower stress in the long run. A study published in 2005 in Neuroendocrinology Letters examined the neurobiology of those in love and found an association between people’s stress response systems, known as the HPA axis activation, and the development of social attachment. The results suggest that forming a bond with your partner could help bring about physiological changes that reduce levels of anxiety.

One reason why you feel less stressed may be because being in love makes you feel safe and develop trust towards your loved one.

Oxytocin, a hormone released through physical contact like huggingkissing, and sex, deepens feelings of attachment towards your partner and produces sensations of contentment, calmness, and security, according to a Harvard Medical School report.

Oxytocin also plays a role in social bondingmaternal instinct and reproduction, and sexual pleasure. The “love hormone” substantially increases social attachment and trust among partners, according to a study published in Nature.

Your brain activates the vagus nerve, which is connected from the brain to your gut. 
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Have you ever felt your heartbeat speed up, palms sweat, or stomach churn (in a good way) at the sight or thought of someone you love?

When in love, cortisol levels increase and the body goes into fight-or-flight mode.

“Your limbic or emotional brain activates the vagus nerve that goes from the brain to your gut,” Dr. Daniel Amen, psychiatrist and neuroscientist, told NBC News. “When you get nervous, or when you get excited (as I explain to my patients, it’s the same feeling, but it depends on your interpretation of it) this nerve is stimulated that activates the gut.”

  • Being in love releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter that controls the brain’s reward and pleasure center, which makes couples feel happy around each other.

In 2005, a study published in The Journal of Comparative Neurology scanned 2,500 brain images of 17 individuals who self-identified as being in love. Researchers found that participants who looked at a photo of a person they romantically loved showed brain activity in two areas highly associated with dopamine: the caudate nucleus and ventral tegmental area.

Being in love has been shown to have pain-reducing qualities, although most doctors wouldn’t recommend relying solely on love after, say, a serious surgery or injury.

A 2010 study published in the journal PLoS ONE took fMRI scans of participants in new romantic relationships. The researchers found that people who viewed images of romantic partners had increased activity in several reward-processing regions in the brain, suggesting that love (and distraction) may reduce the experience of pain.

“When people are in this passionate, all-consuming phase of love, there are significant alterations in their mood that are impacting their experience of pain,” Dr. Sean Mackey, senior author of the study, told Stanford Medicine News Center.

Like addictive drugs that light up our pleasure centers and keep people coming back for more, love can be addictive in its own way.

Scientists have observed overlapping neurochemical responses in the same areas of the brain among people experiencing drug addiction and love. A 2017 study published in the journal Philosophy, Psychiatry, & Psychology reviewed research about the relationship between addiction and love. The authors suggested that love can be addictive because it’s a need that can be temporarily satisfied but can become very distracting if it’s not fulfilled for a long period of time. (Official medical classification guides do not include love as an addiction, however.)

Some of these feelings may have to do with sex — sexual activity, orgasms, and some drugs all release dopamine in an area of the brain called the nucleus accumbens. An orgasm’s rush of oxytocin and serotonin, along with muscular relaxation, can leave you craving more. That’s why it might feel like engaging in sexual activity can give you a rush.

Source: https://www.businessinsider.com/falling-in-love-changes-your-body-and-brain-2018-7
Jul 11, 2018, 7:51 AM

A Man’s Facial Hair And How To Decode His Personality

Today I found an amusing article on the HuffPost blog that decodes a man’s personality according to his beard fashion. I have moved the biggest part of the blog post here, but to finish reading the entire post, I linked back to Huffpost, where you also will find a picture gallery of famous bearded men.

Enjoy the post. I had tons of fun.


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Fellas, we know that we can be a bit judgmental, but first impressions are the most lasting. That’s why we feel it is our obligation to point out when the hem length of your suit is all wrong or to run in the opposite direction when we detect Merrells on your feet. And whether you realize it or not, your facial hair also says a lot about you.

The editors here at HuffPost Style have a strong attraction to scruffy-faced guys (read: Ryan Gosling) because they appear to be the most easygoing and laid-back. However, after recently chatting with Allan Peterkin, a pogonologist (aka beard scholar), Dove Men+Care facial grooming expert and author, the confidence of a mustache-wearing male like “Sons of Anarchy” star Charlie Hunnam is turning us on.

Full Beard

george clooney

An “older” man’s beard. “I think the association for a lot of people is that it’s scholarly beard, or academics often have those beards,” says Peterkin. “Full beards also have religious associations (think of Moses or Jesus). So that one comes with a lot of historical weight. It’s a bit of an old-fashioned style but we certainly see young men wearing it these days.”

Goatee

brad pitt

A man who’s stuck in the past. “This [facial hair style] hit in the mid-1990s. It was a bit of a statement then, but it’s sort of become the overly done expression. Some men still wear it, but one guy I interviewed said, ‘If your dad and your dentist still have goatees, it’s time to change your look,'” says Peterkin.

Scruffy/Stubble

ryan gosling

A man who is up on the latest trends. “If you just scan men’s magazines — Esquire, GQ, etc. — probably every one to three ads have a guy with stubble as the main expression. Sometimes you see it superimposed with a mustache on top or with bigger side burns, but stubble is sort of the base,” says Peterkin. “The only misconception is that people think that it’s easy and you just roll out of bed. But you do have to maintain it.”

Sideburns

jemaine clement

A man who likes to have fun. “Everyone thinks of Elvis when they think side burns. I think college campuses and hipsters in Brooklyn are where men experiment with it the most. It’s a playful look,” says Peterkin.

Chinstrap

50 cent

A man making a pathetic cry for attention. Peterkin says, “It’s for a guy who wants to push the envelope and also wants to be asked about his facial hair. Everything has been done under the sun, so I think men are sort of looking for what’s the thing that they don’t see on their street or in their workplace.”

Mustache

thomas lennon

A man who is a bit cocky. “Historically, it’s had the baddest rap of all the facial hair expressions. Then in the ’70s, the mustache took on a sexual connotation — there was the swinger mustache, the porn mustache and then the gay/bisexual mustache,” says Peterkin. “The mustache comes with all that baggage, but it’s eased up recently because of charity movements like Movember. I think younger guys who wear it are confident enough to believe that you can read their mustache in any way and not really care.”

Horseshoe Mustache

hulk hogan

A man who is rebellious. “This one was always thought of as the biker mustache and then the wrestler. Or whenever a famous person like Hulk Hogan adopts the style, it becomes associated with him,” says Peterkin.

Handlebar Mustache

david beckham

A man with a pleasant personality. “We think of barbershop quartets, southern gentleman and the famous baseball player Rollie Fingers… this sort of old fashion, sipping tea on the porch kind of association,” says Peterkin.

Soul Patch

howie mandel

A man who is a bit off-beat. “During both both World Wars, men particularly in America were clean-shaven. Then every decade after, there was a little pocket of facial hair,” says Peterkin. “In the ’50s, beatniks had soul patches, and then hippies adopted the look in the ’60s.”

Mutton Chops

lemmy kilmister

A gentleman with a big heart. “What comes to mind for me is a Victorian gentleman with a monocle or the a general in the North called ‘Burnside.’ But it’s a very Victorian expression,” says Peterkin.

Clean-Shaven

jake gyllenhaal

A man who is a bit preppy. Peterkin says, “Before, men used to be wed to a look, it was a life-long expression and not a fad. I think young men are going back and forth between having some sort of facial hair and now going clean-shaven. I think men are freer to do that than before. And I predict that we’re going to go back to that ‘Mad Men,’ clean-shaven look.”

*In the past, Dr. Peterkin acknowledges that a man’s facial hair would say a lot about him. “You could read his politics, read his religion and read his class. But in sort of the late 20th and mid-21st century, you can’t really know what the facial hair means unless you ask the guy,” he explained. “We all project meaning onto beards and mustaches but that may not really align with who the man is.”

How does your facial hair measure up to these celebs?

READ THE ENTIRE ARTICLE HERE

How to Find Publishers & Agents – Written By Jane Friedman

Thank you for your information about the search for publishers and agents, Jane Friedman!


 

If you have a book idea or a manuscript, one of your first questions is probably:

How do I find a publisher?

Or, if you’re more advanced in your knowledge of book publishing, you may ask:

How do I find a literary agent?

The good news: there’s no shortage of resources for researching publishers and agents. The bad news: you can easily spend hours going down the rabbit hole of available information.

Continue reading HERE

The Best Free Tools To Help New Amazon Authors – Written By Derek Haines

Derek Haines provides us with a post about the best free tools Amazon has to offer its authors. Thank you very much, Derek!


on Just Publishing Advice:

Are you planning to self-publish your first book on Amazon?

For new authors, Amazon self-publishing is the simplest, and a free way to publish your book.

If you plan on writing a book or have already written one, there are many free tools available that will make publishing your book with Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP) much easier.

Before you rush in and upload your manuscript, here are some must-have tools that will help you publish a better book.

In This Article

Self-publishing for the first time

Free tools to help you succeed

Slick Write
Canva
Kindle Create
Kindle Previewer
Calibre
Sonar
Book Description Generator
Shaxpir
Summary

Continue reading HERE

How to Make the Best Choice of Ghostwriting Services – Written By Nicholas C Rossis

Nicholas Rossis, as usual, provides us with excellent advice on a topic that is interesting to many of us writers: ghostwriting services. Thank you, Nicholas!



Besides my freelance SEO copywriting, I have ghostwritten a book, which is awaiting publication (more on that soon!).

Anyone interested in this line of work should send their potential clients to this article to ensure a good collaboration.

Written from the point of view of the client, I list here some things I discovered in the process, like when you need a ghostwriter and how to choose the right one for you.

Continue reading HERE

 

Successful Self-Publishing: Build Your Brand – Written By Laurisa White Reyes

I found an interesting article published by Laurisa White Reyes. Thank you so much for your advice, Laurisa


on Fiction University:

Getting Personal

If you are not comfortable tooting your own horn, welcome to the club. Writers tend to be introverts by nature. Most of us do not like drawing attention to ourselves. In fact, give us a quiet corner in an empty house for hours on end, and we’d be quite content – as long as we have our computers to keep us company.

But if you want to sell books, you need fans – not fans of your books – fans of YOU! It’s not always about the story you’ve written. Yes, of course, you want your readers to love your books, and they will. But before they ever hit that BUY link on Amazon, they must have a good reason for doing so, and that reason is their loyalty to you as a person.

Continue reading HERE

The Famous ‘House Special’ – Guest Post on Juliette Kings’ Vampire Maman Blog

 

The Famous ‘House Special’

Written by A. J. Alexander

A while ago, back in Europe, when I was traveling with a friend, I went for dinner to a restaurant that belonged to a very nice Italian couple. It was in Rome.

You know, when you go to European restaurants, there are these eight-to-ten people tables for tourists, where they place you on, and unless the table is filled up, you won’t get served.

My friend and I had a lot of fun. I don’t belong to the people who always want to eat steak and fries or fish and chips wherever they go. I’d like to know what a country has to offer me. And here it was the same thing.

Confidently I told the waiter, I want to have the ‘house special,’ no matter what it is. He was a bit surprised and asked carefully, “Are you sure?” I confirmed that I was, indeed, very sure.

He brought us soup and salad ahead; then, the entrees were served. My friend got steak and fries, and I got the ‘house special’… it was a bird, a tiny bird. It was lying there, all by itself, on a small white plate.

The little head hung halfway over the plate; one of its eyes was open, one closed, beak, feet, and claws were still entirely there.

So far, I have always taken on every challenge I had accepted, even the ones to myself. But in that particular case, the question was not, would I really go through with this? The question was, “How?”

There is something we all can learn from American ‘Haute Cuisine’… One can eat everything imaginable on Earth, no matter what it is, provided it fits in a bun.

CONTINUE READING HERE

 

Smorgasbord Laughter Lines – August 27th 2020 – Hosts Debby Gies and Sally Cronin – Appropriate Dress and Airline Marketing

Have fun with Sally Cronin and Debby Gies. I had a good laugh with these. Thank you, Sally and Debby!


Firstly, with the results of sleuthing on the Internet are some funnies from Debby Gies followed by some jokes from Sally.

D.G. Writes is where you will find an archive full of wonderful posts across several subjects including writing tips, social issues and book reviews.

 

 

 

CONTINUE READING HERE

 

26 Writing Conferences in September 2020 (most held online) – Written by Erica Verrillo

Erica Verillo provides us with 26 writing conferences in September. Thank you so much, Erica!


on Publishing … and Other Forms of Insanity:

While many fall writing conferences have been rescheduled, most are going ahead as planned via online formats. You can still attend workshops, presentations, readings, discussions, lectures, and critiques via Zoom.

Plan ahead!

Conferences often offer scholarships, but these have deadlines. If one of these conferences interests you, put the scholarship deadline date on your calendar for next year, or for whenever the conference rolls around again.

Get Full Details HERE